what is it?: warning signs

are you? | dating violence | warning signs

Pay attention to cues when you are getting to know someone.

• Emotionally abuses you (insults, belittling comments, ignoring you, acting sulky or angry when you initiate an action or an idea.)
• Tells you who you may be friends with, how you should dress, or tries to control other elements of your life or relationship.
• Gets jealous when there is no reason.
• Drinks heavily, uses drugs, or tries to get you drunk or high.
• Berates you for not wanting to get drunk, get high, have sex, or go with them to an isolated or personal place.
• Refuses to let you share any of the expenses of a date and gets angry when you offer to pay.
• Is physically violent to you or others, even if it's "just" grabbing and pushing to get their way.
• Acts in an intimidating way toward you by invading your "personal space" (sits too close, speaks as if they know you much better than they do, touches you when you them not to.)
• Is unable to handle sexual and emotional frustrations without becoming angry.
• Does not view you as an equal  because they are older or see themselves as smarter or socially superior.
• Goes through extreme highs and lows, is kind one minute and cruel the next.
• Is angry and threatening to the extent that you have changed you life so as not to anger them.
• Blames others for their actions.